The essence of Conscious Fatherhood

The essence of conscious fatherhood is that parenting is not only about your child, but equally about yourself. By developing your awareness as a parent, your child can be himself and develop according to his or her own path. For this, it is necessary to gain insight into your own upbringing, with everything you unconsciously pass on from that to your children.

For instance, I had a father in training who was very strict on the rules about screen use. It is good to follow agreements, only with this father there was a charge. His children were bothered by this; they experienced judgment when watching a movie. After further questioning, it turned out that he had an alcohol-addicted brother and he was afraid that his children would also become addicted. In this case, to a screen.

Or a father who used to be bullied himself and is overprotective towards his children because of this. For example, he decides what clothes his children should wear to influence them to be bullied less. His children only get to decide what they like to wear on weekends.

So you can know all the rules and tips on parenting only if you are not aware of the essence of Conscious Fatherhood, chances are you are still not really connecting with your child and parenting from fear.

Conscious fatherhood focuses on guiding children so that they have more self-respect and self-confidence. And teaching them to be very enthusiastic about themselves and feel involved in the world.

Conscious fatherhood, touches you, sets you in motion, and you see and feel your commitment daily in the connection with your children.

Triggers

So in the programmes of Conscious Fatherhood, it's also about you, because that's where the biggest change and gain lies. This is how you learn to deal with triggers. Triggers are the things that your children especially not have to do to you. Like not listening, ignoring, shouting, not eating through, not keeping appointments, etc. Becoming aware of what your triggers are helps you avoid automatic unconscious reactions. When you become aware of your triggers, you can act on them and learn how to deal with them so that it has less or even no impact on you and negative feelings stay out.

By working with triggers in the programme, Wouter got back from his sons that he is nicer and more sociable since the online training. Read here Further on Wouter's experience.

Are you ready to strengthen your fatherhood? To invest in the relationship with your children and grow personally yourself?

Then join the programme Your Conscious Fatherhood Click here for more information on the online training.

Working on the most important thing there is. It makes me a more conscious and calm father.

About Roderick Timmermans

I am blessed with three amazing boys, two of whom have been diagnosed with autism and giftedness. I see my children as walking mirrors that help me stay alert to what I am feeling and experiencing. So that I stay connected to them and continue to grow in awareness.

Parenting has been and remains one of the most challenging things I have ever done. Before I realised the impact I have on my children as a father and started working on myself, these challenges caused some frustrations. In myself, but certainly also in my children. I knew that what I was doing was not having the desired effect. I disapproved of this in myself and sometimes said the same to my children. But how could I do things differently?

What I wanted to achieve was more connection with my children, so that even in difficult situations I could continue to act from confidence in myself and my children. So I gradually discovered that parenting is more about being aware of my own emotions and needs, and about taking responsibility, than about trivia and parenting tips.

In my quest, I found out what it is really about; developing personal leadership. By focusing on this, I now experience that connection with my children and they with me. As a result, we can now face daily challenges much easier together and I am more successful in guiding them to become confident and social individuals.

As a senior coach and experiential expert, I teach you to connect with your child in an authentic way that allows you to experience parenting with much more peace and confidence.

My mission is to create awareness in fathers with the aim of connecting more with themselves and their child.

Through the Conscious Fatherhood method, there will be more openness about feelings, fewer tantrums, more independence, self-confidence and happiness.

Through Roderick, I gained more insight into my behaviour as a father and found out how I want to be as a father.

Bonus lesson

You may have already read that I people happy to help with both awareness and concrete handles. To get you started, I have a online lesson made available to you. 

Registering and logging in for free will give you access to the lesson 'Whose problem is it'. Click the button below to register and access the bonus lesson.

Good luck!

Roderick